Frequently Asked Questions

The Nitty-Gritty

  • I like to meet like-minded individuals: men and women, including trans folks, other providers of any gender presentation, and couples of all varieties. I play well with seasoned kinksters and devoutly sensual vanilla lovers alike. I love meeting those who are just beginning their kink journey.

  • Where there's a will, there's a way, my friend. But just so you know how simple it is: Email me and suggest a date and time in the future, send your screening information, and then confirm with a deposit. Check out the details on my "meet" page.

  • My screening protocol is standard and streamlined. Whether you have done this before or not, this small hurdle will be painless. For those in the know: two recent references from reputable providers will suffice. Include a link to their ad listing, website, or social media.

    For those who do not like to kiss and tell, as well as for newbies without a reference, I can accept a blank email from your professional work account. I may also accept LinkedIn with a photo of your national or state ID. And I am willing to try other minimally invasive methods that meet both of our purposes.

    I may also consider P411 and RS2K verification requests.

  • I require a deposit to confirm all dates and reserve my time. When I commit to an adventure with you, I necessarily turn other invitations down and I also arrange other parts of my life so as to be at my best when you and I get together. I also arrange for my travel and often host, so deposits cover all of these details and set my mind (and the rest of me) at ease.

    For outcalls to Manhattan and Brooklyn, I require a 25% deposit, and for pretty much everything else I ask for 40-50% towards our date. For this, I accept the holy trinity of payment apps and also accept select gift cards. I will provide the necessary details when I request the deposit. Do not send a deposit until I request it.

  • The rates for my time are listed on this page. Most of my dates fall between two hours and dinner, and I sincerely enjoy these short and sweet encounters. However, I am always desirous of leisurely encounters that allow us to slowly unravel to the core of the matter and then really dive in. My rate structure reflects this.

  • If you have to cancel, please let me know as soon as possible. With enough advance notice, I can roll over your deposit (less any travel or lodging costs incurred) to another date within four weeks. If you notify me with less than two days' notice, you forfeit your deposit, and with less than one day's notice, I will anticipate that you will find a way to pay my full fee. Should I ever have to cancel, you will be refunded your entire deposit instantly via the method that you sent it.

 Availability

  • With enough advance notice and an enticing enough proposal, I can move mountains. Less advance notice naturally leads to less availability. I am a Taurus rising and love a slow, sensual, and sensuous approach to my day-to-day. Same-day requests can be a little chaotic, so if you're going to try it, make it as easy for me as you can.

  • I always appreciate it when you host our little getaways. Upon request, I can host in business-class hotels in Manhattan, from Central Park South to FiDi, and in Brooklyn. I then book us a room once I have received both the room fee and the deposit.

  • I can travel up to three hours from Brooklyn for outcalls that are as long as the one-way drive. I ask for 100 per hour driven. Further than that would be an FMTY-style arrangement and would require one night’s lodging.

  • I don’t exactly tour, but I sure do travel. First of all, I'm in Berks County, Pennsylvania for a personal project pretty much every month. I also visit North Carolina and DC seasonally. Anywhere else is anyone’s guess. I have a blog post with current travel plans and a general note on my orbit (I do get to Atlanta, Boston, Chicago, Nashville, and the west coast every now and again), Join my mailing list if you want to hear about my travels.

  • But of course, here is a blog I wrote about FMTY dates.

 Etiquette

  • Take as good care of yourself as you can, in whatever way that you do. You are preparing yourself for something special and you'll enjoy yourself the most if you feel good going into the experience. Drink lots of water (always a good idea). I wrote a blog about how to prepare for anal play. The day we meet, please shower and tend to your nails meticulously before meeting me. I have no preference for your facial or body hair grooming - I appreciate you in whatever way you most appreciate yourself.

  • I always appreciate spring or mineral water, fresh berries, and chocolate. I enjoy crémants, champagnes, cavas, lambruscos, and frizzier pet nats. I'm fond of tequillas and mezcals. I love if you bring a bottle to share and a bottle for my collection.

    You are encouraged to bring your favorite toys and lube for me to use on you. I will bring plenty, but if you like your things, let's use them. Your fetish gear is also welcome. I am worldly and secular, and you probably won't shock me.

  • Sure. I have a love-hate relationship with them, but they are also valuable. You can see my reviews here.

  • Yes, you can request two references for each date that we went on together. And providers are always welcome to reach out to me to check a reference. Be sure to link to your ad, social media or website so I can quickly verify you.